Builder of Her Home: Inner Tranquility; The Key to Womanhood #1-Part I

16 03 2012
Based on a Naaleh.com shiur by Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller

When the Torah was given, Hashem told Moshe, “Say to the house of Yaakov and tell to the sons of Israel.” Rashi explains that the house refers to the women and the sons refer to the men. But there’s something deeper. Men and women communicate in different ways. While a woman’s manner is soft and understanding, a man wants to know how it is.

A woman’s nature doesn’t lend itself to struggle and the hard edge. She intuitively turns towards self-discovery, finding the life-spark in her own heart and doing acts that bring her true self forth. She wasn’t meant to be a warrior. In todays’ society there are women CEO’s, women with high positions in the armed forces, women who are as hard as nails. They’re paying a high price for this – themselves.

The Gemara says, “Great is the promise Hashem made to the woman even more than he made to the men, as it says in Yeshaya, ‘You women of tranquility, rise hear my voice, you daughters of security, listen to what I say.’ ” Hashem says, you must hear my voice, you must listen, but you can find it within yourself. You don’t have to struggle. You don’t have to discover it through the kind of competition and battle men must do.

Women have a certain natural closeness to Hashem. They recite the blessing, “She’asani kirtzono,” because they finds their spirituality within. They are inherently willing and ready to do Hashem‘s will. In Pirkei Avot it says, “Make Hashem‘s will your will.” In order to do that we must know who we are and what we really want. So much of the time we’re out of touch. We must ask ourselves, “What do I want most?” Once we know that, the next step is to ask, “What is my highest will?” As a woman, the answer would be retzono. I want to be given a path, I want structure. Ideally one should find this in ones relationship with Hashem.

Hashem said, “Fill the earth and conquer it.” The way of a man is conquest. It can be through competition, athletics, the stock market. A man gets ahead by choosing his battles. He has to decide who he’s going to compete against, what his objectives are going to be. He has to work hard. Because of this when the Torah was addressed to men, the word used was dibur, tell it to them. Make the goals seem one step further than their comfort level, so they will struggle.

In a moving speech to the British nation during WWII, Churchill said, “I promise you nothing but blood, sweat, and tears,” and the people were with him because the men and even the manly part of the women wanted struggle. If he would have said, “Don’t worry it’ll be ok,” he wouldn’t have bought their hearts the way he did.

Yirat Hashem (fear of Hashem)is the beginning of all things. It says, “The beginning of wisdom is awe of Hashem.” Wisdom is the ability to understand the world and its meaning. Yirat Hashem comes from recognizing that the world is a creation on the deepest of all levels. It makes us want to observe, explore and understand. Chochmah is the power of observation unleashed. It involves asking, “What does it tell me? What have I learned?” Chochmah leads to yirat Hashem because the more a person sees the intricacy and purposefulness of the world, the more he stands in awe before Hashem. It is a circle but it must start with yirat Hashem.

In Mishlei, it says, “If you search for it like gold and treasures, then you’ll understand yirat Hashem and comprehend true knowledge of Hashem.” If you want to know Hashem, you have to search for Him the way you search for money. Daat is a state in which the knower and the knowledge become one. For a man, the way to make something his own is through struggle. But a woman must tread a different path. Shlomo Hamelech writes in Mishlei, “A woman who fears Hashem is praised.” Her task is to discover her yirat Hashem inside herself. She must peel away the layers and find it within.

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