Does Hashem Want to Hear From Me?

12 07 2011

Excerpted from Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller’s Question and Answer series on

Rebbetzin's Perspective I Class #5


I’ve learned that Hashem gives nisyonot to those who can grow from them and to those whose prayers he longs for. B”H my life is running smoothly. Does this mean that Hashem doesn’t want to hear from me?  I thank Hashem all the time but I also can’t help constantly feeling that something bad may be looming on the horizon. Does this fear stem from a lack of emunah or from an inaccurate view of Hashem as a loving Father or from a low self-esteem not conducive to spiritual growth?




The Rambam tells us that we are all in the midst of a nisayon (test). Even people who are living seemingly easy lives have the test of not attributing anything to themselves. Continue thanking Hashem for all the good He’s provided you with. Give Him the nachat of serving Him with simcha, joy. When you wake up in the morning, say Modeh Ani with passion and real joy. Call out to Hashem with the same kind of force and emotion as a poverty stricken person cries out to Him for his basic needs. Your joy should be infectious. When people would ask Rav Noach Weinberg, “What is the most important kiruv tool,” he’d answer, “Happiness.” You can save countless lives just by teaching people the art of appreciation and thankfulness.


The Rambam says, as you feel intuitively, that our life spans are like circles that go around and around. A person may be up today and down tomorrow. We should all expect that life will present us with different challenges. Few of us will stay with the same nisayon forever. But the same loving, caring, Father who gives us nisyonot that are visibly good, also gives us nisyonot that may appear bad.  Even if Hashem decides to test you with a daunting trial, hold on to your sense of gratitude and love for Him. Despair stems from a lack of emunah. It comes from failing to believe that whatever Hashem does is good and compassionate, and that something painful may in fact be for tikun. Your flaw in emunah is that though it is real, it is not broad enough. Work on strengthening that and then any challenge Hashem sends your way will only be a catalyst for growth.




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