I grew up listening to secular music (rock, among other genres) and I still enjoy it. I can’t stand most of the modern Jewish music available. Do I need to deprive myself of listening to what I like?
I understand what you mean about modern Jewish music, but there’s a lot more out there than you think. I don’t think being frum means depriving yourself. I think we have to be selective. The lives of people involved in secular entertainment are not good lives. It’s not as black and white as you think. Wholesomeness and good-heartedness don’t come from listening to rock. There’s invisible power woven into music that can have both a positive and a deleterious effect on us.
Elevate your musical experience with pure and holy melodies. Listen to real music. I mean the Chassidic melodies of two hundred years ago such as Chabad, Belz, and Breslov. These are classics that are moving and beautiful. Try to get people in yeshiva to record a Simchat Beit Hoshevea or get a cassette of a Simchat Chatan V’kallah. This kind of music is stirring and inspiring and will uplift your soul in a way that secular music never will.