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		<title>Parshat Bo: Kiddush Hachodesh and Kiddush Hazman</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Naaleh.com presents this d&#8217;var Torah on Parshat Bo by Rabbi Beinish Ginsburg In this week’s parsha we have the mitzvah of “hachodesh hazeh lachem”, the mitzvah of kiddush hachodesh. This is actually the first mitzvah given to Am Yisrael as a nation. Rav Soloveichik zt”l would like to explain1 that this mitzvah represents the idea [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=naalehupdate.wordpress.com&amp;blog=3564989&amp;post=1303&amp;subd=naalehupdate&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<p>In this week’s parsha we have the mitzvah of “hachodesh hazeh lachem”, the mitzvah of kiddush hachodesh. This is actually the first mitzvah given to Am Yisrael as a nation. Rav Soloveichik zt”l would like to explain1 that this mitzvah represents the idea that the Jewish people have the koach, the ability, to be mekadesh the zman, to sanctify time. Bais Din has the ability to create real kedusha in the world. The Torah gives a date for the Yomim Tovim- Pesach, Succos, and Shavuos. However, Bais Din decides on which day the Yom Tov will fall, Bais Din has the authority to decide when Rosh Chodesh will be, and based on when Rosh Chodesh falls out, then the date of the month is established, and that determines when the Yom Tov will occur two weeks later. This is why in our davening we say “mekadesh Yisrael v’hazmanim”. Hashem is mekadesh Yisrael, and then Hashem, along with B’nai Yisrael are mekadesh the Yomim Tovim. We play a role in being mekadesh the Yomim Tovim. The Rav explained that it does not say “mekadesh Bais Din, v’hazmanim.,” rather mekadesh Yisroel v’hazmanim.” Why? The Bais Din Hagadol served two functions2. One is to be similar to the Supreme Court, the final arbiter of certain halachic shailas. And two, in certain areas the Bais Din Hagadol would act like the House of Representatives, as the representative of Am Yisrael. When B’nai Yisrael was mekadesh the chodesh, the Rav explained, they were acting on behalf of all of Klal Yisrael, and that is why we say “mekadesh Yisrael v’hazmanim”.</p>
<p>The truth is this is very important. Why is kiddush hachodesh the first mitzvah in the Torah? I have seen the following explanation. When Bais Din is mekadesh the Chodesh, they are actually creating real kedusha. As explained above, Bais Din decides when Yom Tov will occur. If for example, in a certain year, Rosh Chodesh Nissan could fall on either a Tuesday or Wednesday. And a Jew was planning on eating a bread sandwich on the third Tuesday morning of Nissan. Who decides whether that would be muttar or ossur? Not Hashem, but rather Bais Din! If Bais Din declares Rosh Chodesh on Tuesday, then it would be prohibited because the third Tuesday would be Pesach. If Bais Din, however, declares Rosh Chodesh on Wednesday, then it would be permitted. This is a powerful idea. Bais Din has the authority to create Kedushas Hayom. So too, when a Jew performs any mitzvah, he is creating real kedusha. Kedusha, ruchniyos, lasts forever. When a person performs a mitzvah, the impact, the schar, is forever. Each moment in time becomes an opportunity to generate nitzchiyus. Therefore, as opposed to time being the enemy, time is our friend. We control time. Every moment of time is a chance to produce nitzchiyus that will last forever. Therefore it is fitting that the first mitzvah given to us is the mitzvah that most powerfully expresses the idea that human beings can create kedusha in the world.</p>
<p>We mention zechiras yetziyas mitzrayim on Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur as well. L’chorah, what does Yitziyas Mitzrayim have to do with Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur? The Rav explained3 this is the idea. Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur are yomim tovim which have dates in the Torah, but again, on which day the date falls out depends on the declaration of Bais Din regarding kiddush hachodesh. Bais Din plays a role also in the establishment of the kedusha of Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur, and therefore, we mention zechiras yetziyas mitzrayim on Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur as well.</p>
<p>The Rav went further. Why is it that we received this mitzvah of kiddush hachodesh in conjunction with leaving Mitzrayim? The answer might be as follows4. A slave lacks time awareness. A slave has no control over his own time. The Rav explains various dimensions that are part of the time experience: retrospection, anticipation, and appreciation. Anticipation “is man’s projection of visions and aspirations for the future. Appreciation embraces the present as precious possession, as inherently worthy.” The Rav explains that a slave lacks this. Time awareness is the singular faculty of the free man, who can use or abuse it. To a slave it is a curse or a matter of indifference. It is not an instrument which he can harness to his purposes. The free man wants time to move slowly, because presumably it is being employed for his purposes. The slave wants to accelerate time because it will terminate his oppressive burdens. Not being able to control time, the slave grows insensitive to it.</p>
<p>The Rav explains this is why a slave is patur from mitzvos aseh she’hazman grama, because he lacks time consciousness. Therefore, it fits beautifully that as we were becoming free men and leaving Mitzrayim, and we were achieving this newfound sense of time appreciation and time consciousness, specifically at that point we were given the mitzvah of kiddush hachodesh. At that point we were given the opportunity and the obligation to be mekadesh the zman. Time becomes an instrument which we can harness for our purposes. The ability to be mekadesh the Chodesh, the ability to be mekadesh time, comes along with our freedom from slavery, and therefore, we received this mitzvah in conjunction with Yetziyas Mitzrayim.</p>
<p>Our challenge is to use our freedom properly. As the Rav explains, a Jew is supposed to use his time as an instrument, to harness it for mitzvos and kedusha. A person should fill his day with productive uses of his time5- Torah, avodah, chesed, productive exercise, making a parnassah, developing strong relationships with friends, etc&#8230; This is one of the lessons of Yetziyas Mitzrayim and one of the lessons of this week’s parsha. It is our obligation and our challenge to be mekadesh our time in our everyday lives just as the Bais Din Hagadol is mekadesh the Chodesh.</p>
<p>Good Shabbos,</p>
<p>B. Ginsburg</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Rebbetzin&#8217;s Perspective I: Class#7 Excerpted from Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller&#8217;s Question and Answer series on Naaleh.com Question: My ten year old daughter finds davening boring. I can&#8217;t think of ways to inspire her except to tell her that Hashem is waiting to listen to her tefilot (prayers)and that she can ask for anything she wants, like [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=naalehupdate.wordpress.com&amp;blog=3564989&amp;post=1300&amp;subd=naalehupdate&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<p><strong>Excerpted from Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller&#8217;s Question and Answer series on Naaleh.com</strong></p>
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<p><strong>Question:</strong></p>
<p align="left">My ten year old daughter finds <em>davening </em>boring. I can&#8217;t think of ways to inspire her except to tell her that Hashem is waiting to listen to her <em>tefilot </em>(prayers)and that she can ask for anything she wants, like new shoes or clothes. Can you help me with more ideas?</p>
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<p align="left"><strong>Answer:</strong></p>
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<p align="left"><em>If your daughter is not extraordinarily spiritual, like most ten year olds, she will not like davening. Accept this as appropriate for her stage of development.</em></p>
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<p align="left"><em>Babies start out completely materialistic and as their spirits grow, they become more spiritually attuned. It&#8217;ll take a good two years for her to become more sensitized to prayer. All you can do during this time is make davening more appealing and inspiring by teaching her the tunes to some of the tefilot and helping her understand what the words mean. Sometimes communal davening with other people helps too. </em></p>
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<p align="left"><em>Obviously she&#8217;ll need a lot of affirmation and appreciation, but ten year olds in general don&#8217;t daven with kavanah (intention), so don&#8217;t have unrealistic expectations.</em></p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Based on a Naaleh.com shiur by Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller  The Gemara and the Midrashim call Paro&#8217;s daughter, Batya, meaning the daughter of Hashem. The yud and the heh at the end of her name spell the name of Hashem. With this name, He reveals Himself as above all reality but still within this world. What [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=naalehupdate.wordpress.com&amp;blog=3564989&amp;post=1298&amp;subd=naalehupdate&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<p align="left"><a href="http://www.naaleh.com/viewclass/603/single/" target="_blank"><img src="http://www.naaleh.com/videos/cache_image/img_603_160_120_01_30_2008_03_57_24.jpg" alt="The Women of Egypt and the Desert" width="160" height="120" align="left" border="0" vspace="5" /></a> The Gemara and the Midrashim call Paro&#8217;s daughter, Batya, meaning the daughter of Hashem. The <em>yud</em> and the <em>heh </em>at the end of her name spell the name of Hashem. With this name, He reveals Himself as above all reality but still within this world.</p>
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<p align="left">What inspired her to extend her hand when the basket holding baby Moshe was clearly beyond her reach? She couldn&#8217;t bear to see his suffering. She is an example of someone who exerted super human efforts and was helped from above. We learn from this episode that if we try our best, we often receive far more than anticipated.</p>
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<p align="left">Miriam was the leader of the Jewish women. Rashi says she taught the women <em>Torah</em> just as Moshe taught the men. Women have a different way of understanding and grasping <em>Torah,</em> hence they needed a woman to teach them. In the Zohar it says that parallel to the heavenly <em>Torah</em> academy for men, women will learn <em>Torah</em> from Miriam and Batya.</p>
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<p align="left">Miriam had enormous spiritual depth and vision. She waged battle against evil, which is what her name connotes. When she left Egypt there was so little time, yet she made sure to pack her instruments. Her faith was so strong that she was sure they would need it.</p>
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<p align="left">Tzipora was Moshe&#8217;s wife. Tzipora means a bird. Her nature was to soar above the mundane. She was the perfect wife for Moshe. They were both people of great spiritual transcendence similar to each other and dissimilar to other people. Moshe elevated himself to the point that he was in a state of continued readiness to receive prophecy. He had to separate from his wife.</p>
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<p align="left">Miriam couldn&#8217;t understand this because her level of prophecy was different than his. The conclusion Miriam reached wasn&#8217;t that Moshe&#8217;s prophecy was unique, but that there was something inherently lacking in his relationship. Consequently, she was stricken with <em>tzaraat</em>, a skin illness. Skin, the largest organ of the body, creates a separation between one person and another. When a person sees another in a diminished way, he becomes in a certain sense lifeless or unimportant.</p>
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<p align="left">Although Miriam clearly meant what she said for Moshe&#8217;s benefit, she was punished severely. <em>Tzaddikim</em> are penalized for infractions as fine as a single hair. <em>Tzadikim</em> desire closeness and an intense relationship with Hashem that isn&#8217;t blocked by any faults. Suffering purifies their flaws.</p>
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<p align="left">In the desert narrative, we read about Korach&#8217;s wife. Korach had enormous potential. He could have been the <em>Levi Gadol</em>. The Levites had to go through a unique ritual which involved shaving off all their body hair in order to give them a feeling of being one unit. Korach&#8217;s wife told her husband, &#8220;You&#8217;re a nobody, you&#8217;re just a number, there&#8217;s no difference between you and the next <em>Levi</em>. Look how Moshe turned you into nothing. He did it to keep his own position. Why are you putting up with this?&#8221; She egged him on which ultimately led to their doom.</p>
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<p align="left">In marriage, a husband provides and the wife must take what he gives and turn it into something greater. When the wife sees her husband trying to provide, she feels beloved. When he sees his will actualized in the highest sense, he feels respected. This is how a marriage grows. Korach&#8217;s wife corrupted her husband&#8217;s desire to be something. She is the epitome of an evil wife.</p>
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<p align="left">In contrast, On ben Pelet&#8217;s wife didn&#8217;t argue with her husband. She didn&#8217;t disparage his dreams and desires. Instead she said, &#8220;Either way, whether Moshe or Korach leads, you won&#8217;t come out on top anyway.&#8221; It was clear to him that his wife was acting with his best interests in mind. He went inside the tent and she sat in the doorway blocking the entrance. That is how she saved him.</p>
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<p align="left">Man is compared to dough. The soul is water and the body is flour. The body is the wife of the soul. Our yearning self which is called <em>ruach</em> is meant to rule the <em>nefesh,</em> the part of us that&#8217;s connected to this world. A good body takes what the soul offers, builds with it, and turn it into something. The soul says, &#8220;I want connection.&#8221; The body actualizes it by performing <em>mitzvot</em>. The body is meant to uplift the soul, to give it credence and credibility, not to disparage it.</p>
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<p align="left">We&#8217;ve looked at three paradigms of great women. The woman who is known for what her husband becomes, the woman who is known for what her children become, and the woman who is known for what she herself becomes.</p>
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<p align="left">The influence of careerism is touching the observant community. In today&#8217;s society, self-actualization is idealized. It&#8217;s wrong to say, &#8220;Who I am to my family has nothing to do with my true self.&#8221; From the Torah&#8217;s perspective, these three women are in fact one. Your imprint, who you are, shines through in how you succeed in affecting others.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Based on a Naaleh.com shiur by Rabbi Shimon Isaacson There is a disagreement among the Rishonim whether havdalah is d&#8217;orayta or d&#8217;rabbanan. The majority of Rishonim rule that it is d&#8217;orayta. Are woman obligated in havdalah? Is havdalah a mitzvah of Shabbat or of motzai Shabbat? Since women are obligated in the negative commandments of [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=naalehupdate.wordpress.com&amp;blog=3564989&amp;post=1295&amp;subd=naalehupdate&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<p align="left"><strong>Based on a Naaleh.com shiur by Rabbi Shimon Isaacson</strong></p>
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<p dir="LTR" align="left"><a href="http://www.naaleh.com/viewclass/437/single/" target="_blank"><img src="http://www.naaleh.com/videos/cache_image/img_437_160_120_09_05_2007_18_00_00.jpg" alt="" width="160" height="120" align="left" border="0" vspace="5" /></a> There is a disagreement among the <em>Rishonim</em> whether h<em>avdalah</em> is <em>d&#8217;orayta</em> or <em>d&#8217;rabbanan</em>. The majority of <em>Rishonim</em> rule that it is <em>d&#8217;orayta</em>. Are woman obligated in <em>havdalah</em>? Is <em>havdalah</em> a <em>mitzvah</em> of <em>Shabbat</em> or of <em>motzai Shabbat</em>?</p>
<p dir="LTR" align="left">Since women are obligated in the negative commandments of <em>shamor,</em> they are also obligated in the positive commandments of <em>zachor</em>. According to the Rambam, <em>havdalah </em>is part of the <em>mitzvah</em> of <em>Kiddush</em> and women are obligated. According to the Orchot Chaim, women are only obligated in<em> kiddush</em>. <em>Havdalah</em> is a time bound <em>mitzvah </em>of <em>motzai Shabbat </em>from which woman are exempt. Based on this, the Rama rules that women should not make <em>Havdalah</em> for themselves.</p>
<p dir="LTR" align="left">Some Rishonim argue that although <em>havdalah</em> is <em>d&#8217;rabbanan,</em> women are still obligated because it was meant by the sages to be a part of the <em>mitzvah</em> of <em>kiddush</em>. The Mishna Berura cites the Bach who asks, if the Orchot Chaim is correct and woman aren&#8217;t obligated why can&#8217;t they make <em>Havdalah </em>anyway? In fact the Magen Avraham and the Bach rule that women can make <em>havdalah</em>. How then do we understand the Rama?</p>
<p dir="LTR" align="left">With <em>havdalah</em> there&#8217;s no <em>maaseh</em> (action). The blessing itself is the <em>mitzvah</em>. Therefore the Rama rules that women shouldn&#8217;t say it. Preferably, a man should intend to recite it for a woman when he says <em>havdala</em> for himself. The man should not say <em>havdalah</em> earlier because if in fact a woman isn&#8217;t obligated, he may be reciting it in vain. In principle, a woman is obligated and therefore if there&#8217;s no man the woman should say it herself.</p>
<p dir="LTR" align="left">The Biur Halacha questions whether a woman should say the blessing of <em>Bori meorei haish</em> since it is essentially a <em>mitzvah</em> of <em>motzai Shabbat</em> which women aren&#8217;t obligated in. Therefore, it may be an interruption between <em>Borei Pri Hagefen</em> and <em>Havdalah</em>. The common practice is that women do say <em>Borei meorei haish</em>.</p>
<p dir="LTR" align="left">There&#8217;s a Kabbalisticsource that mentions that women shouldn&#8217;t drink the wine of <em>havdalah</em>. Rav Meltzer explains that <em>Borei meorei ha&#8217;aish</em> may qualify as an interruption before <em>Borei pri hagefen</em>. Therefore, a woman shouldn&#8217;t drink the wine. However, the custom is that if she makes <em>Havdalah</em> for herself, she does drink from it.</p>
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		<title>Parshat Shemot: Fundamentals of Hashem&#8217;s Chesed</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Jan 2012 18:19:04 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Based on a Naaleh.com shiur by Rabbi Hershel Reichman  The midrash says that at the time of the exodus, the Jewish people were at the 49th level of impurity. They didn&#8217;t deserve to be redeemed. Yet Hashem appeared to Moshe and said He would take them out of the land. Rabbe Yochanan maintains that the [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=naalehupdate.wordpress.com&amp;blog=3564989&amp;post=1292&amp;subd=naalehupdate&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<p align="left">The midrash says that at the time of the exodus, the Jewish people were at the 49<sup>th</sup> level of impurity. They didn&#8217;t deserve to be redeemed. Yet Hashem appeared to Moshe and said He would take them out of the land. Rabbe Yochanan maintains that the angel Michael was the angel who delivered G-d&#8217;s message because he represents <em>chesed </em>(kindness). Rabbe Chanina disagrees and says it was the angel Gavriel who signifies <em>din</em> (judgment).</p>
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<p align="left">The Shem Mishmuel explains that the Jewish people were in fact redeemed with both <em>chesed </em>and <em>din</em>. They didn&#8217;t deserve to be saved. Hashem acted beyond logic with beneficence, much like a father&#8217;s instinctual love for his son. Although the angels didn&#8217;t protest during theexodus, they did put up an argument at the Red Sea. At that time, <em>chesed</em> transformed into <em>din</em>. The angels objected, &#8220;Both the Jews and the Eyptians worship idols, why are you preferring the Jews?&#8221; The Jews needed to be worthy of the miracles, and indeed Hashem waited until they jumped into the sea before he split the waters. Once they deserved the miracles, the attribute of <em>din</em> was activated in their favor.</p>
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<p align="left">Even <em>chesed </em>has to have some reasonable basis. Otherwise it&#8217;s misplaced. The Jewish people were at the 49<sup>th</sup> level of impurity. Yet at their deepest core, they were still holy. Hashem understood that this inner spark would emerge after the redemption. In exile, they were spiritually and physically enslaved. All they could think about was surviving. Therefore, Hashem sent the angel Gavriel who symbolized strict justice to punish the Egyptians. When the Jews could finally breathe freely, their latent holiness rose to the surface.</p>
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<p align="left">Hashem created the world with a combination of <em>din</em> and <em>chesed</em>. At first there was <em>din. </em>Hashem put limits upon himself (<em>tzimzum</em>) to make space for the world to come into existence. Then he poured forth his <em>chesed</em>. Similarly, the exodus was a kind of creation <em>ex-nihilo</em>. A holy nation arose from a band of shattered slaves. <em>Chesed</em>, Hashem&#8217;s generosity, took us out of the 49<sup>th</sup> level and brought us to Sinai.</p>
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<p align="left">The Shem Mishumel notes that the exodus will be a model for the future redemption. It too will be a melding of <em>chesed</em> and <em>din</em>. Hashem waits for us to be worthy. When we repent, we will be redeemed immediately.</p>
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<p align="left">When Moshe asked Paro to release the Jews, he increased their suffering. Moshe complained to Hashem, &#8220;Why did you send me?&#8221; Hashem responded enigmatically, &#8220;Now you will see that Paro will send them out and I will redeem them.&#8221; Why did He send Moshe on a failed mission?</p>
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<p align="left">When Moshe first came, the Jews&#8217; hopes were raised. They began to think that perhaps they would be redeemed. But when Paro rejected Moshe&#8217;s request, they reverted back to their old ways. There was a seeming accusation in heaven. Perhaps the Jews weren&#8217;t worthy to be redeemed. When Moshe said, &#8220;You are preventing the nation from serving Hashem,&#8221; Paro countered, &#8220;Who is Hashem that I should listen to him?&#8221; Then the mission changed from redeeming the Jews to defending the honor of Hashem&#8217;s name. This was the basis of Hashem&#8217;s <em>chesed</em>.</p>
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<p align="left">This will also be the foundation of the future redemption. It may very well be that the Jews won&#8217;t deserve to be redeemed, but Hashem will perform miracles for the sake of His name. At the end of <em>Avinu Malkeinu</em>, we say &#8220;<em>Asei imanu tzedaka va&#8217;chesed</em>.&#8221; Please perform for us justice and kindness.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Based on a Naaleh.com shiur by Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller In Masechet Brachot, Reish Lakish says, &#8220;When a person busies himself with Torah, yissurim separates from him. In the evening the bird can go up.&#8221; This refers to Torah which lifts up one&#8217;s eyes. &#8220;And there is no evening like suffering,&#8221; as it says, &#8220;In the [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=naalehupdate.wordpress.com&amp;blog=3564989&amp;post=1288&amp;subd=naalehupdate&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<div><strong><strong>Based on a Naaleh.com shiur <strong>by Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller</strong></strong> </strong></div>
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<p align="left"><a href="http://www.naaleh.com/viewclass/112/single/" target="_blank"><img src="http://www.naaleh.com/videos/cache_image/img_112_160_120_07_18_2007_22_46_47.jpg" alt="" width="160" height="120" align="left" border="0" vspace="5" /></a> In Masechet Brachot, Reish Lakish says, &#8220;When a person busies himself with <em>Torah</em>, <em>yissurim</em> separates from him. In the evening the bird can go up.&#8221; This refers to <em>Torah</em> which lifts up one&#8217;s eyes. &#8220;And there is no evening like suffering,&#8221; as it says, &#8220;In the darkness of night.&#8221; <em>Yissurim</em> comes as a result of lack. It is meant to purify and galvanize change. <em>Torah</em> can elevate a person to the point where <em>yissurim</em> have no dominion over him. <em>Torah</em> is wholeness.</p>
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<p align="left">Rav Huna says in the name of Rav, &#8220;If a person sees <em>yissurim</em> coming upon him he should examine his deeds.&#8221; If he doesn&#8217;t find any personal flaws, he should assume it is because of bitul <em>Torah</em>. If it is not bitul <em>Torah,</em> then it is out of love, (not lack) as it says, &#8220;Hashem rebukes those whom he loves.&#8221; He wants to draw us closer, so He afflicts us. A person could suffer and not gain anything. He could choose to learn nothing and blame it all on external causes. Alternatively one can grow and view it as a catalyst for change.</p>
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<p align="left">Rav Yaakov Bar Idi and Rav Chana bar Chanina differed on their view of suffering. One said that any suffering that prevents a person from learning <em>Torah</em> cannot be <em>yissurim shel ahavah </em>(suffering out of love) for how can you turn someone on and then take away his ability to act upon it? The other says that if a person can still pray to Hashem and achieve <em>deveikut </em>(connection), it&#8217;s still <em>yissurim</em> <em>shel ahavaha</em>. Rav Chiya and other opinions maintain that even suffering where one cannot pray is an expression of Hashem&#8217;s love.</p>
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<p align="left">Suffering can be extrinsic in that it is a means towards actualizing potential. It also works intrinsically by purifying the body so that the soul becomes the person&#8217;s primary identity. This is learned from the law of <em>shen v&#8217;ayin</em>. A non-Jewish slave who loses a tooth or eye must be freed. If a slave can redefine himself as a free person through minor suffering, how much more so can a person whose entire body is afflicted with suffering become a different person.</p>
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<p align="left">The Torah commands us to add salt to a sacrificial offering. This is called <em>brit melach.</em> Similarly, <em>yissurim</em> are also called a covenant. Just as salt enhances food, <em>yissurim</em> sweeten sin by cleansing and purifying the person. Suffering humbles the body and atones for sins. It drives a person to begin thinking beyond physicality.</p>
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<p align="left">When a person cannot find any sin, it is <em>bitul</em> <em>Torah</em>, meaning he has unfulfilled potential that must be brought out. <em>Yissurim</em> puts a person on the fast track drawing out his untapped strengths.</p>
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<p align="left">Hashem doesn&#8217;t beat dead horses. There&#8217;s a vast difference between what a refined person and what a vulgar person can learn from suffering. For a <em>tzaddik</em>, it&#8217;s a sign of love. <em>Yissurim</em> expel the material side of a person and propel him higher.</p>
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<p align="left">Nobody longs for what they have. We long for what we don&#8217;t have. In order to generate this yearning, Hashem created barriers to prevent us from being who we are. When things are easy for us materially, we don&#8217;t think about spirituality because we are so involved in our physical self-fulfillment. Therefore, Hashem creates obstacles in the form of suffering to propel us to higher levels of spiritual yearning.</p>
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		<title>What is the proper balance of trusting Hashem and being responsible?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Achieving Balance #3 Excerpted from Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller&#8217;s Question and Answer series on Naaleh.com Question: What is the proper balance of trusting Hashem and being responsible?  According to the book, &#8220;The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People,&#8221; most things are preventable and can be controlled, as long as you are smart, think ahead, and prepare [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=naalehupdate.wordpress.com&amp;blog=3564989&amp;post=1290&amp;subd=naalehupdate&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<p><strong>Excerpted from Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller&#8217;s Question and Answer series on Naaleh.com</strong></p>
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<p align="left">What is the proper balance of trusting Hashem and being responsible?  According to the book, &#8220;The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People,&#8221; most things are preventable and can be controlled, as long as you are smart, think ahead, and prepare for different situations. I trust Hashem, but I have so much to work on when it comes to my own actions, that I can&#8217;t write off everything that happens as His decision, because I could have really done better.  Is this correct?</p>
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<p align="left"><strong>Answer:</strong></p>
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<p align="left"><em>You can do everything right. You can plan ahead, define what your goals are, take steps to work towards it, and consult, but you will not necessarily get the results you anticipated. You can follow the &#8220;seven habits,&#8221; but unlike what the book espouses, it doesn&#8217;t guarantee a positive outcome. </em></p>
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<p align="left"><em>On the flipside, if you do everything wrong, your results will most likely be influenced by your misguided decisions. Hashem created the world in a way where he gives us what we need if our hands are outstretched to receive. The balance of hishtadlut (effort) and bitachon (trust) is doing what you can and trusting Hashem. It&#8217;s opening your hands to receive, but realizing that ultimately Hashem will give you what&#8217;s good for you. However, no outside force can change anything except Hashem Himself.</em></p>
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		<title>Practical Judaism II: Mizmor L&#8217;Todah part 2</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Based on a Naaleh.com shiur by Rabbi Ari Jacobson  Does one recite Hagomel after a flight? Some authorities rule not to say the bracha, because flights have become routine. Others say that if one flies over an ocean or desert then one should recite it. Rav Moshe Feinstein held that one says Hagomel after every [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=naalehupdate.wordpress.com&amp;blog=3564989&amp;post=1286&amp;subd=naalehupdate&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<p align="left">Does one recite <em>Hagomel </em>after a flight? Some authorities rule not to say the bracha, because flights have become routine. Others say that if one flies over an ocean or desert then one should recite it. Rav Moshe Feinstein held that one says <em>Hagomel </em>after every flight because it is an act of overcoming nature. Other <em>poskim</em> disagree. When there&#8217;s a questionable situation, one should receive an <em>aliyah</em> and have in mind while answering to <em>Barchu, </em>to thank Hashem. <em>Hagomel</em> should be recited in the presence of a <em>minyan,</em> ideally in front of <em>a sefer Torah</em>, while receiving an <em>aliyah</em>. The Chasam Sofer explains that the <em>bimah</em> represents the altar and itis as if one offers a <em>korban todah</em>.</p>
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<p align="left">Several authorities say women are also required to say<em> Hagomel</em>. Some rule that one man and eight other women are enough to count as a quorum for this. Others maintain that ten men are necessary. Some authorities worry about modesty issues and rule that the men should be relatives. Others say she should recite the blessing from the women&#8217;s section. Some rule that because <em>Hagomel</em> generally requires a <em>minyan</em> of men, the <em>mitzva</em> requirement was never imposed on women. Different communities have different customs. However everyone agrees that a woman can say <em>Mizmor L&#8217;todah</em>.</p>
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<p align="left">There&#8217;s a dispute among the <em>Rishonim</em> as to whether one only recites <em>Hagomel</em> when one is saved from the four scenarios Some authorities rule that for a different hazardous situation, the blessing should be recited without <em>shem u&#8217;malchut</em>. <em>Ashkenazim</em> follow the view that any dangerous predicament requires <em>Hagomel</em>. <em>Sefardim</em> don&#8217;t say the blessing as frequently, following the view of the Shulchan Aruch. However in a situation where one is unsure if <em>Hagomel</em> is required, one can have special concentration in the daily recital of <em>Mizmor l&#8217;todah</em>.</p>
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<p align="left">In the future, all the various songs of praise for Hashem will be nullified except <em>Mizmor l&#8217;todah</em>. We say it every day because in reality we should be thanking Hashem all the time for the natural order of the world. It is recited standing up and with great joy as if one is offering a thanksgiving offering.</p>
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<p>On <em>Shabbat</em> and <em>Yom Tov</em> we don&#8217;t say <em>Mizmor L&#8217;todah</em> because <em>korbanot nedava</em> (voluntary sacrifices) were not brought then. It is also not recited <em>Chol Hamoed Pesach</em> and <em>Erev Pesach </em>because the <em>korban todah</em> wasn&#8217;t offered on these days. Of the forty loaves that had to be brought, ten of them were leavened bread, which couldn&#8217;t be offered on <em>Pesach</em>. An offering that would have to be burnt earlier than usual was not brought either. Therefore, we don&#8217;t recite <em>Mizmor L&#8217;todah</em> on Erev Yom Kippur because the thanksgiving offering could not be eaten on Yom Kippur evening</p>
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<p><strong>Excerpted from Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller&#8217;s Question and Answer series on Naaleh.com</strong></p>
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<p align="left">I&#8217;ve seen girls that were lumped together and told to be friendly and it backfired badly. It bothers me because it was all in the name of <em>achdut </em>(unity). What is the Torah perspective and where does <em>achdut </em>fit in here?</p>
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<p align="left"><strong>Answer:</strong></p>
<p align="left">Our world is enormously complex. Every creation has its own purpose, structure, and reason for being, with the common goal of revealing <em>Hashem&#8217;</em>s glory. If you compare a lion to a frog they are different, but they share one characteristic &#8211; they affirm <em>Hashem&#8217;s</em> greatness. The mission of a Jew is to interpret the world and find <em>Hashem&#8217;</em>s glory in every person, creation, or situation he encounters. Every Jew is part of the collective of <em>Klal Yisrael</em> and together we can give interpretation and meaning to existence.</p>
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<p align="left">The verse says concerning the Jews, &#8220;<em>Becha etpaer,</em>&#8221; I take pride in you. When you meet another Jew, ask yourself, How does <em>Hashem</em> take pride in him in a way that is different than how He takes pride in me? How can I really know this person? What is his unique contribution to the world? How can I learn from him?</p>
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<p align="left"><em>Achdut</em> can occur when you ask, &#8220;Where do I see <em>Hashem&#8217;s</em> honor in this person?&#8221; His glory may be hidden under layers of pride and sinfulness. Your job is to see through that facade so that you and the person can resonate by tapping into the <em>tzelem Elokim </em>(Divine Image<em>).</em> This is really what <em>achdut</em> means, seeing the spirituality within another person and feeling one with him.</p>
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<p align="left">Viewing different sectors within <em>Klal Yisrael</em> and seeing what is unique, admirable, and beautiful, without necessarily feeling you have to be a part of that particular group, is <em>achdut</em> manifested in reality. This is the way true <em>tzaddikim</em> looked at other Jews and this is what we should aspire to.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Based on a Naaleh.com shiur by Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller Our sages tell us that the physical war against the Greeks gave expression to our spiritual struggle against them. Hashem could have destroyed the Greeks, but He wanted us to fight against them for our own development. This was the same reason that Avraham fought with [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=naalehupdate.wordpress.com&amp;blog=3564989&amp;post=1279&amp;subd=naalehupdate&amp;ref=&amp;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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<p dir="LTR" align="left"><a href="http://www.naaleh.com/viewclass/370/single/" target="_blank"><img src="http://www.naaleh.com/videos/cache_image/img_370_160_120_03_16_2008_09_06_15.jpg" alt="" width="160" height="120" align="left" border="0" vspace="5" /></a> Our sages tell us that the physical war against the Greeks gave expression to our spiritual struggle against them. <em>Hashem </em>could have destroyed the Greeks, but He wanted us to fight against them for our own development. This was the same reason that Avraham fought with Terach and Rabbi Akiva battled the Romans. When we won against the Greeks, it wasn&#8217;t a physical victory, but a victory of <em>kavod shamayim</em> (honoring Hashem&#8217;s name).</p>
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<p dir="LTR" align="left">Although the vial of oil burned for eight calendar days, the miracle translated into something beyond time. This is intimated by the number eight. The root of the word <em>shemona</em> (eight) is <em>shemen, </em>oil. Just as oil floats above other liquids, the Chanukah miracle was something above our sense of reality. It transformed our way of thinking and experiencing this world to one of <em>sheleimut</em>, rising above ourselves. Similarly, a <em>brit milah</em> takes place on the eighth day and is performed on a baby who is not given a choice. Eight represents submitting to a higher will above our own.</p>
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<p dir="LTR" align="left">The potential to see the light was there before the war but it was concealed by darkness. The Greeks had squashed all our potential and latent power. When the Macabbees succeeded in defeating them, they were finally able to achieve <em>deveikut </em>(connection to G-d). This is an inspiration for all of us. When we fall spiritually, we may easily come to despair. The miracle of Chanukah strengthens our belief in the power of our higher self, in the love <em>Hashem </em>has for us, and in the eventual redemption.</p>
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<p dir="LTR" align="left">The Gemara writes that the Chanukah lights are holy and may not be used for our own benefit. Sanctity means dedicating something to <em>Hashem</em>. All <em>mitzvot</em> have holiness, but their holiness is hidden. Yavan with its philosophy of self-contained humanism creates concealment. Faith and following the <em>Torah</em> help us breaks through these barriers to access this sanctity. This is the miracle of Chanukah which can still be found in the Chanukah lights.</p>
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<p dir="LTR" align="left">After the candles are lit, we sing, &#8220;<em>U&#8217;menotar kankanim naaseh nes la&#8217;shoshanim</em>, with what was left in the little vessel, Hashem made a miracle for the Jews who are called <em>shoshanim</em> (roses). In Shir Hashirim the verse states, &#8220;<em>Ani chavatzelet hasharon shoshanat ha&#8217;amakim</em>.&#8221; The roses that grow in the hot and dry Sharon region are yellow and hardy while those that grow in the shade are red and delicate. There are <em>tzaddikim</em> who are tough, who discover who they are not and affirm who they are. There are those who are more refined, who never faced the impurity of the outside world. People sometimes mistakenly think that the second type of <em>tzaddik</em> is inherently superior to the first. However, the Chashmonaim who battled impurity are called <em>shoshanim</em>.</p>
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<p dir="LTR" align="left">Both categories of <em>tzaddikim</em> can reach the same level of greatness because the oil, their core <em>emunah</em>, remains. Our sages tell us, &#8220;<em>Al tistakel b&#8217;kanakn eleh b&#8217;mah she&#8217;yesh bo.&#8221; </em>The outside is really a garment for the inner self. Many times we may look at people and wonder where <em>Hashem</em> is with them. This is true of secular Jews, and about those among us who have failed. We must learn to focus on every Jew&#8217;s inner essence. The word for world in Hebrew is <em>olam, </em>which is related to the word <em>he&#8217;elem</em>, meaning hidden. <em>Hashem</em> is there within every form of concealment. Someone who may appear so far from Judaism really has faith buried deep within him whether he is aware of it or not. Hashem&#8217;s <em>malchut</em> (kingdom) is hidden in this world. Every so often He lifts the curtain and we see miracles. We realize that He was there all along.</p>
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<p dir="LTR" align="left">The <em>kankanim (</em>containers) that conceal light are the different forms of exile. Some of us are victims of the Greek exile, which perceived everything in terms of human perceptions. Others are victims of the Persian exile, which espouses that only material exists. And still some of us are victims of the Babylonian exile where control and force dominate. We are all victims, but inside of us is a pure light which we will rediscover at the time of redemption. All of us go through stages of terrible concealment, failure, and despair. We have all sorts of things that enslave our hearts and emotions. It&#8217;s up to us to liberate ourselves. On <em>Chanukah</em> we renew our sense of <em>Hashem&#8217;s</em> kingship. We can take on many enemies and defeat them. We can discover our own capacity for light and attain purity. Then we can come to a higher point of perceiving <em>malchut shamayim</em>, not only in this world and in other people, but in ourselves.</p>
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<p dir="LTR" align="left">On Chanukah, we read the <em>parsha</em> of the <em>nesi&#8217;im </em>and their contribution to the sanctuary, which was completed on the 25<sup>th</sup> of Kislev. The twelve tribes parallel the twelve different angles of a cube that meet at the same center. They each reflect a different soul power, treading a different path to reach the same goal. The Zohar says that Yaakov blessed each of his twelve sons individually because he recognized that they were unique. They were each born in a different month under a different astral sign which reflects the different channels through which <em>Hashem</em>&#8216;s energy flows down. Likewise, <em>Hashem</em>&#8216;s name, <em>yud keh vav keh</em>, has twelve different ways of arranging the letters. Each tribe sees <em>Hashem echad</em> through its own prism. His binding force is aroused even when there is a partial redemption. This awakening of the Chanukah miracle rekindled our own light.</p>
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<p dir="LTR" align="left">The Torah says there was a river that flowed out of Eden. When this river left Eden it divided into four different tributaries. Eden represents unity and the four streams correspond to the forces of estrangement represented by the exile. In Kohelet it is written, &#8220;All of the rivers go into the sea.&#8221; We can take any exile back to its source. We can face the evil and uplift it. Our defeat of Yavan brought us to a new level of redemption that we had never experienced before. The river Chidekel represents Yavan &#8211; <em>chad v&#8217;kal </em>- sharp and brilliant. The Greeks used their incisiveness to describe reality in their own terms. We can take that power and use it for holiness.</p>
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<p dir="LTR" align="left">In the blessing on the Chanukah lights, we say, &#8220;<em>Bayamim haheym ba&#8217;zman hazeh</em>.&#8221; At all moments of liberation, we have an opportunity for redemption as individuals too. Chanukah is liberation from the Greek mind-set, whose root is the sin of the golden calf, whose underlying was the desire to see everything on our own terms. On a personal and collective level, this is a time of elevation.</p>
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<p dir="LTR" align="left">We are like someone standing on a giant&#8217;s shoulder reaching upward. All of the merits of the previous generations give us the strength to chart our own course. As we tread the path mapped out by our forefathers, we create our own unique way.</p>
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<p dir="LTR" align="left">May we merit to experience the miracles, to see our unity as purposeful, and to find the light within ourselves.</p>
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