NEW Rebbetzin’s Perspective Class Series

Rebbetzin’s Perspective II: Questions and Answers for Today’s Jewish Woman

This unique class features Rebbetzin Tzipora Heller answering real questions sent in by Naaleh’s female members across the globe. Rebbetzin Heller continues to address the challenges and struggles encountered by contemporary Jewish women with wisdom, humor, and understanding.

The first installment is NOW available!

Questions and Answers for Today’s Jewish Woman, Part 1

In this Torah shiur (class) Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller responds to real life dilemmas and challenges sent in by Naaleh’s female students around the world.  This class touches on issues such as rewarding children for helpful behavior, dealing with conflicts within a community,  the intertwined destiny of husbands and wives, and understanding korbanot.  Each question is answered with sensitivity and wisdom. This Torah class is available online in streaming video and for download in mp3 and ipod video formats.

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‘I know intellectually that my role is to be a wife and mother…Yet I still feel unfulfilled’ Rebbetzin Heller is here to help!

Rebbetzin’s Perspective: Balancing Life’s Challenges

This unique class features Rebbetzin Tzipora Heller answering real questions sent in by Naaleh’s female members across the globe. Rebbetzin Heller addresses the challenges and struggles encountered by contemporary Jewish women with wisdom, humor, and understanding.

This past week the following question came in:

I know intellectually that my role is to be a wife and mother, but I often get stuck in the shallow and superficial aspects of it. I try to listen to at least one shiur a day, I’m involved with different self- growth groups, and I am busy with different chasadim.  Yet I still feel unfulfilled. What can I do to make sure that I am maximizing my spiritual potential and that when I go to sleep at night I don’t feel that it was just a meaningless day?

Rebbetzin Heller’s Answer:

You’re doing everything right, but for some reason the spiritual messages you’re getting are not sinking into your life.  I would advise you to switch the topic of your shiur to something with penimius that will affect your attitude. Studying Chassidus such as Nesivos Sholom, is a good start. Here you will find that when you learn about ahavat reyim it will effect actual changes in your interaction with your friends, children and husband. Alternatively, if you prefer something more challenging, I would suggest studying the first Maamar in Likutei Maharan.  Not for the sake of intellectual stimulation, but to help you refocus on the way you look at things. Let the learning flow down to who you really are when you are sorting laundry or checking rice.  Your soul, mind, emotions, and actions should all ideally be on the same page. This was the level Yaakov Avinu reached and this is why he was called “Ish Tam“. Try to step away out of yourself and see the beauty and preciousness in the little things in life. For example, when you are feeding a baby, don’t try to finish quickly so you can get on to the next thing. Revel in the fact that you have a baby, that he can eat, and that he is delighting in his food. Realize that the light that you see here comes from a single Source, which is the Power that energizes everything. Focus on the depth and intricacies of creation and its subtle meaning. Internalizing the inner meaning of Torah will help you discover fresh profundity and purpose in your life.

To listen to the rest of this class cession, click here: Questions and Answers for Today’s Jewish Woman, Part 15 The rest of the class Rebbetzin Heller addresses questions about moving to Israel, giving mussar to a friend in a delicate way, and breaking out of destructive patterns in marriage.

Questions and Answers for Today’s Jewish Woman with Rebbetzin Heller, Part 9

It’s Here! Part 9 of the Question and Answer series entitled ‘Rebbetzin’s Perspective: Balancing Life’s Challenges’ with Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller is now available at Naaleh.com in streaming video as well as for download in mp3 and ipod video formats.

Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller discusses contemporary challenges facing Jewish women today, as she responds to questions sent in to her from Naaleh students around the world.

This specific class discusses complex family relationships, the Torah’s perspective on worldwide tragedies, tzniut, husbands and wives on different spiritual levels, and understanding why we were created, among other topics.

To view this class check out the following link:
Questions and Answers for Today’s Jewish Woman, Part 9

Questions and Answers for Today’s Jewish Woman: Class 8

Keep the Torah Classes Coming!

I just downloaded all of Rebbitzen Heller’s Questions and Answers. I appreciate her insights and down to earth responses. Keep them coming.
Thank you.

Rivky B. Waterbury, CT

Index for Rebbetzin’s Heller’s ‘Achieving Balance’ and ‘Rebbetzin’s Perspective’ Classes

‘Achieving Balance’  Index

CLASS #1
1. Davening in public e.g. Dr.’s office
2. Advice on house management
3. Family vs. Smachot
4. Busy mother/ how much chessed?
5. Welcoming In-laws
6. Personal prayer vs. family obligations
7. Self improvement without husbands support
8. Psak Halacha to a friend
9. Covering hair while reciting a bracha
10. Role change as husband leaves full time learning
11. Guilt about having material posesions
12. Conversations with children at bed time
13. Anger affecting Avodas HaShem

CLASS #2
1.    Covering hair around women
2.    Problem attending Shul on Shabbos
3.    Attractive vs. Attracting in dress
4.    Encouraging independence and responsiblity in children
5.    Meaning in serving G-d through Torah vs. Eastern Healing
6.    Problem with “required support” in shidduchim
7.    Family centrality
8.    Feeling love in dealing with children
9.    Domestic work vs. outside employment
10.    Husbands lack of relationship with a Rav
11.    Guilt over husband/wife roles
12.    Busy mother-sad/angry over feeling unsuccessful
13.    Overwhelmed with many life changes
14.    Switching modes at home and work
15.    Pressure to have large families

CLASS #3
1. Mother of young children with many opportunities to help community
2. Tzniut in dress and conduct – how does it work?
3. Candle lighting in the 18 minutes
4. View on Torah learning before and after marriage
5. Trusting G-d vs. Personal Responsibility
6. Negativity in home because of husband’s lack of parnassah
7. Opening new school for girls
8. Davening Mincha after marriage
9. Motivate husband toward growth
10. Proper chinuch for children while davening
11. Increase Kavanah in Tefillah

CLASS #4
1. First year unable to attend shul for Rosh Hashana
2. Secular literature
3. Feel like a failure
4. Adapting lessons from the sages into our lives
5. Videoing girls school productions
6. What should I read?
7. Kosher movies?
8. Can’t stand most Jewish music
9. Giving up on books, music, and entertainment
10. Lack of Jewish entertainment due to stifling creativity?
11. Covering hair- special for husband
12. Building on husbands contribution
13. Using the internet
14. Responsibility of health and safety for us and our children
15. Parameters of cooking a Shabbos meal

CLASS #5
1. Husband in Yeshiva willing to come home and help
2. “Jetlagged” mom
3. Daughters friends seem to be superficial
4. Teaching children the meaning of prayers
5. Video- man who died and came back
6. Developing empathy

CLASS #6
1. I can’t daven in public
2. Eating disorder
3. Roommate troubles
4. Obligation toward old friendships
5. Married children for Shabbos
6. Suffering from wrong done to me

CLASS #7
1. Physical is fleeting
2. Modern Hebrew
3. Priorities in tznius
4. Being a safe place for children
5. ADHD
6. Shaitels – still ok?
7. Respectful tznius
8. Overweight people in the Jewish world
9. Middos in the Frum world
10. Teaching students/children truth
11. Mother/teacher – Questions on G-d

CLASS #8
1. Complaining
2. Child in troubled family situation
3. Dealing with alternative lifestyles
4. Wedding plans
5. Feeling alone at Shabbos and Yom Tov

CLASS #9
1. Eretz Yisroel vs. Chutz L’Aretz
2. Developing talents in areas of music, art, etc.
3. Teaching children consideration
4. Simchas Torah for women
5. Womens need to express
6. Teaching children tolerance and respect
7. Changing childrens incorrect judgements
8. Teaching children to avoid abuse
9. Husbands lack of dedication to Torah

CLASS #10
1. Answering tough questions about Judaism
2. Goodness among non-Jews
3. Parenting as immigrants
4. Dealing with people
5. Raising Jewish daughters 1
6. Raising Jewish daughters 2

CLASS #11
1. Dealing with failure
2. Teaching children to be happy with their possessions
3. Role of women
4. Teaches kids not to complain
5. Can you recommend sefer to help me control my eating?
6. Question on righteous women class
7 .Trust Hashem instead of people
8. How can one enhance bitachon when they don’t have a solid family       foundation?
9 .How do I know when to go to a Rav for advice?
10. How do we fulfill being a light onto the nations?
11. Struggling to live with Mumbai Terror
12. Genuinely anticipating Moshiach
13. Role of leisure in Judaism
14. Building by building in depression

CLASS #12
1. Balancing many important goals
2. Laxity in hair covering in previous generations
3. Applying medrashim to my life
4. Lonely marriage
5. Physical beauty in Judaism
6. Husbands talking in shul
7. Guidelines for questions in Shidduchim
8. Encouraging husband to value family time more
9. Son just wants to have fun
10. Movies at friend’s house
11. Encouraging husband’s ruchnius
12. Using illness to connect to HaShem
13. Childlessness
14. Parents not liable for damage caused by children

CLASS #13
1. Guidance on current events in Israel
2. I don’t have friends
3. Feeling Shabbos #1
4. Feeling Shabbos #2
5. Marital advice
6. Rely only on HaShem
7. Vatranut
8. Troubled youth #1
9. Troubled youth #2
10. Sons lack of Derech Eretz in Limudei Chol
11. Loshon Hora problem

Class #14

•    Miraculous effect of giving Tzedakka
•    Ambivalence to husband teaching in Kiruv setting
•    Increasing achdus
•    “Its not my problem” attitude
•    Judaism on friendship
•    Difficult family situations
•    Appropriate response to unsolicited advice
•    Correcting misimpressions
•    Appropriate corrections
•    Response to judgements
•    Discussing family
•    Cosmetic surgeries
•    Difference in opinion
•    Should I wait to have children?

Class #15

•    Positive influence for religion
•    Loshon Hora among women
•    Mood altering and attention controlling medications
•    Issues with covering hair
•    Confidence in starting a family
•    Mesorah
•    Tzedaka and family
•    Involvement in specific tzedaka
•    Spiritual decline
•    Mother critical of religious steps

‘Rebbetzin’s Perspective’ Index

Class #1

Introverted child
•      Women in Judaism
•      Prayer for others
•       Junk food for kids
•      Jewish tragedies
•      One mitzvah- “get well”
•      Hard time with self definition
•      Obsession with looks
•      Alone in a crowd
•      Fixing the world

Class #2

•    Changing others by changing yourself
•    Dealing with suffering
•    Building a relationship with my teenager
•    Childless friend
•    Filling my day meaningfully
•    Meaning of achdus
•    Child born with illness
•    Length of existence of immoral society
•    No choices in suffering
•    Different spiritual battles than Goyim
•    Hachnasat orchim
•    Election confusion
•    Bashert second time around

Questions Answered in Rebbetzin Heller’s Q & A Achieving Balance Class

We are excited to announce that Rebbetzin Heller has now recorded four Question & Answer classes in our popular series Achieving Balance: G-d, Family and Work.  Three of those classes are already available for viewing at http://www.naaleh.com/search/class/59/ and the fourth class should be available at that link by the end of this week.  All questions answered were submitted by our very own Naaleh members, so Thank You to those who submitted questions.  Rebbetzin Heller will be taking a break from recording this class series until after the chagim, but will resume filming this series every few weeks thereafter.  Please continue to submit any questions you may have for her to contact@naaleh.com and she will address it if it has not already been addressed in the first four classes of this series.

The following is a list of the questions that have been answered in the first four classes:

Rav Moshe Weinberger & Rebbetzin Heller Answer Your Questions! Deadline Fast Approaching

In response to your requests, Naaleh.com will be filming its next Question and Answer video classes entitled Achieving Balance: G-d, Family, and Work! Rabbi Moshe Weinberger of Aish Kodesh in Woodmere will be answering questions relating to the unique challenges faced by today’s Jewish men, while Rebbetzin Heller, in a separate shiur, will answer questions relating to the challenges of contemporary women. Please email questions on balancing the different aspects of your life to contact@naaleh.com by Sunday September 7th at 5 PM EST. We hope you will take advantage of this amazing opportunity!

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